How to Create Empowered Relationships

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Have you ever felt rejected or abandoned?

       Are you sometimes unable to connect with someone at a deeper level?

Have you ever found it difficult to set boundaries of  mutual love and respect?

Are you sometimes afraid to love and/or be loved?

What constitutes a relationship?

The answer to this question differs depending on who you ask. The key word here is "connection". When two or more people are connected physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually, you could say that these people are in a relationship.
Depending on our personal backgrounds, we have all created our own idea of what a relationship should look like. There is nothing wrong with that, but problems can arise when the people in the relationship have different views on what a relationship is and what it can and should do for them.

The first mistake that a lot of us make is to believe that as soon as we leave the single life behind us, that all our worries and problems will disappear as we enter into a relationship with the ‘superhero’ or ‘super-heroine’ that we have chosen as a partner. Suddenly, it becomes his or her duty to make us happy, to love us, or to fulfill all of our needs. What we forget is that our partner, our loved one, has the exact same preconceived vision of the ideal relationship as we do – including the same dreams and expectations of us! 

An empowered relationship is created by empowered individuals. To be empowered means that you are in complete acceptance of who you are. You can recognize the duality of your being, and you can take ownership of your feelings, actions and beliefs. So the key concept is ‘Connection with Awareness’.

In an empowered relationship, "I learn to love myself more through the experience of being with you.” When we do this, we live in the moment and can take full advantages of the endless possibilities that life has to offer.

Healing the Spiritual Wounds

  It’s in the spiritual body that we hold all the lessons we've learned, and it’s there  that we find our deep connection with All That Is. It’s there, also, that we hold the wounds, the LACK of LOVE created by ourselves, our parents, our ancestors and, ultimately, humanity as a whole. This experience off a LACK of LOVE cannot be transformed with positive thinking alone. The energy we've created needs to be transformed through an equally powerful choice to go with the vibration, or energy, of LOVE. The spiritual energy of LOVE creates loving thoughts which create loving feelings which create loving actions. If we look at love as only a feeling or a thought or an action, we won’t be able to heal the spiritual wound.

Let’s just imagine that when we first come into this world, when we are just little babies, we  are 100% LOVE. As we grow older, someone may have tell us ‘You are bad’ or ‘You are ugly’, and suddenly that state of 100% LOVE changed to 80% LOVE with 20% LACK of LOVE. So life goes on and things happened, and we keep changing our beliefs about ourselves, and eventually we come to believe that we are only 40% LOVE and 60% LACK of LOVE.
That 60% that we don’t love and accept about ourselves is what we call a spiritual wound.
That part of ourselves that we don’t accept is what we can’t accept in others, and when we judge someone else, we are really expressing self-judgement. If we only love ourselves 40%, that’s all the love we are able to accept from others. Even if they love us 70%, we can only connect with the amount of love that we hold for ourselves.

These spiritual wounds create thoughts. The thoughts create feelings and emotions. The emotions create a physical manifestation of the wound. That’s why sometimes we can heal the way we think or our emotional state, but unless we look at the spiritual wound itself, that energy will still be active and play itself out in our lives. This wound then becomes a very powerful force in our lives until we can accept its existence, take responsibility for it, learn the lesson it’s teaching us, make peace with ourselves and ultimately return to LOVE. 

Healing the wound means that we choose to embark on the journey to once more becoming 100% LOVE.

The 4 Major Wounds

• What is the spiritual wound of rejection and abandonment?

The spiritual wound of rejection occurs when we perceive that our love is not wanted or that the love that we need is not available.

This can take many forms depending on our own experience.

 When we mistake the source of love as being in someone else, if that person then rejects us, we feel empty and unloved.
When two people come together and both hold the spiritual wound of rejection, each person will hold one side of the polarity. One will do the rejecting (active), and the other will be rejected (passive).

In a case like this, both people have mistaken the real source of love by looking for love in the other person.

So where is the true source of love? Within YOU!

 The only way to heal this wound is to look within and learn to see yourself as the limitless source of love that you are.

• What is the spiritual wound of control?

The spiritual wound of control has to do with the misuse of power.

 We identify it when we perceive that power is being taken away from us or when we feel a need to overpower the other person.

When two people come together and play out this wound, one will control (active), and the other one will feel controlled (passive).

In essence, both people are searching for freedom. But freedom cannot be given to you nor can it be taken away from you, since you are FREEDOM.

• What is the spiritual wound of fear?

The spiritual wound of fear occurs when we distrust the flow of life, when we distrust ourselves.

When two people come together and play out this wound, one distrusts (active), and the other feels distrusted (passive).

The wound of fear means that both people are looking for trust outside of themselves. But trust only happens within.

• What is the spiritual wound of separation?

The spiritual wound of separation occurs when we perceive ourselves as disconnected from ourselves and others.

 When two people come together and play out this wound, there are feelings of being alone and isolated. One person withdraws (active), and the other becomes clingy and suffocating (passive).

The wound of separation means that both people are looking for UNION outside themselves. When we connect with all aspects of ourselves, we realize that UNION happens within and that, in truth, we were never separate.

How to create an Empowered Relationship

1.- Accept Uniqueness.

Learn to love and appreciate the way your partner shows their love. Don’t expect that everyone should show love the same way you do.

2.- Move your focus.

See what your partner is doing for you, instead of focusing on what he/she is not doing.

3.- Empowered Communication.

Move away from blaming and realize that any given situation has been created by both.

4.- Personal Healing.

The more you love and accept yourself the more you’ll be able to create a loving relationship.

5.- Become Love.

As we explore the polarities of giving and/or receiving love we embody LOVE. Learn to love yourself through your partner.

6.- Establish Boundaries.

Learn to create empowered physical, emotional, mental & spiritual boundaries.

7.- Awareness.

Become aware of the mayor wounds played out in the relationship and establish the higher truths:
- Abandonment / True source of love
- Separation / Connection
- Fear / Trust
- Control / Freedom

8.-  Being present. Work to clearing energetic imprints of previous
relationships or  unresolved issues/traumas.

9.- Commitment to love. Allow yourself to stay in the relationship when the inner saboteur wants to run away.

10.- Sacred Sexuality. Allow a deeper connection.

The Messages we Learn from our Wounds

•  Rejection teaches us to connect with the true source of love
• Control teaches us how to achieve Freedom
• Fear teaches us to Trust
•  Separation teaches  us about Union